Tuesday, February 14, 2012

LDR (Long Distance Relationship): Rule #1


TRUST In God's perfect time.
I don't remember having a real conversation with him back in highschool.. People knew me for being "Ms. Congeniality" that even gradeschool kids would greet me every morning.. So it's a little weird that he was the only person in my class that I don't remember sharing anything with..

During the 3 years in highschool (2nd to 4th year) that we spent as classmates, we might've only talked TWICE. Once when I borrowed his notebook, and the other one was when I asked him to smile while I was taking a photo of him with one of my friends. The rest of the time, I only knew him as one of the guys who was always part of the Top 10 in class. Maybe it also had a lot to do with the fact that I was going out with somebody else at the time (oo, maaga akong lumandi! Don't judge me! Hahaha!) and had no interest in checking out other boys.. That, and the fact that he was also trying to "court" one of my closest friends back then. So basically, we graduated highschool with absolutely NO IDEA... NO INKLING whatsoever that one day... we would find ourselves madly in love with each other (yun o!!!!! hahaha!) ♥ .
After graduation, most of us went home to the Philippines to pursue college. We may have enrolled in different schools and made a lot of new friends, but we made sure that the whole class made time to meet up once or twice every year for a batch reunion. I even chose to be with them (instead of my "new friends") on my 18th birthday.. Zee was there too but as usual, the night ended with the both of us still CLUELESS of what was about to happen 5 months later...

It was the last week of June 2004 when I decided to call everyone and organize a reunion at Glorietta. Everyone else had a prior commitment or some sort of excuse, except for one person-- I'm guessing you already know who he is. Lol! I was hesitant at first but I was bored out of my wits so I thought, what the heck... The worst thing that could happen was if we end up sharing awkward moments of silence which will eventually lead us to watching a movie instead (to avoid talking to each other) OR we could just make up an excuse to leave and then move on with our lives like that day never happened. Haha!

But 4 hours later... I found myself laughing and actually having a pretty good time. FOUR HOURS. The longest time I've ever spent in Starbucks. The only time I could last that long talking to anybody is if there's alcohol involved. Hahaha! But anyway... this time around, the day ended with us-- all of a sudden-- after SO MANY YEARS-- realizing.... that we might actually be good friends... that beneath his "maangas" exterior, he's actually pretty funny.. and sweet.. So from that day on, we never stopped texting each other and well.. the rest is history. But that's only 1/4 of our story. Hahaha!
Sometimes, I wonder why God didn't give us the chance to be closer to each other back in highschool.. That way, maybe we wouldn't have wasted so much time, effort, and emotions on other people who have hurt and left us broken. But maybe God thought it wasn't the right time. Quite frankly, I don't think Zee and I would've realized that we'd be important to each other, even if we developed a friendship in highschool. I guess there were some valuable lessons that we needed to learn first from relationships with other people, that would eventually become helpful for when it was our time to be together.
It took me and Zee SIX YEARS before we saw something "special" in each other.. There are some things that don't happen, not because it's not "meant to be", but because it's not yet the right time. So whenever I get depressed about this LDR situation that we're in, I always remind myself that God is cooking up an amazing plan for the both of us.. All we gotta do is be patient. Everything will be okay, and it will be worth the wait... ♥

Happy Valentines to everyone reading this.. ♥ ♥ ♥  

14 comments:

Anna Palaspas said...

Aweeeee :"> I was smiling the whole time, super kilig with (1/4) your love story!! Grabe.. Funny how love does work in mysterious ways and how God makes us get hurt at first just to eventually introduce us to that one person who can change everything for the rest of our lives. Kilig ako ate Honey!!

Oh well, Happy Hearts' Day to you and your Habibi. I'm sure you'll be strong so long as you trust God with his plans and trust him with his love for you. ♥

Sweet Balucanag said...

Reading your posts makes me think that you've written my love story, except that it wasn't Starbucks but just an unknown cafe here in our place. Hehehe!

Happy Valentine's Day! =)

Honey said...

Stay in love you guys.... I love your story!!! So kilig... True love endures distances... I need more tips from you, gurl! sooon...hehe ♥

http://littlemisshoney.blogspot.com/2012/02/advance-happy-valen.html#comment-438118406

Jayham Fernandez said...

Reading your post really dug something deep in me. It is a constant struggle to firmly believe that LDR's could work, but I don't need to look further than to the both of you, to actually see that it does. Honestly, both of you gave me hope. If with both you being in LDR, you're still as faithful and constantly hoping as ever, how much more when both of you become together, this time, permanently. I pray that your relationship would continuously grow through God's blessing, leadership, love, & guidance. Thank you<3

Arnie Villanueva said...

Honey, you got me smiling the whole time I was reading this. ♥ I admire your love story with Zee, and I believe you deserve each other. :"> Happy Valentine's Day!! Miss you and I hope hope hope to see you real soon!

Arnie
www.arnievillanueva.com

thestyleflux said...

Awww my heart just melted, ang ganda ng love story niyo! I'm so kilig! Thank you so much for your the words of encouragement! That really inspired me.. Happy Vday lovers! <3


Kaye
http://thestyleflux.blogspot.com

herroyalbleakness said...

Aw, Honey, thanks for sharing that 1/4th of the entire truth about you and the BF. I pray that you stay strong for the relationship bec I really feel that the two of you are exceptional peeps.

(P.S. Hahalungkatin ko ang posts mo if nakunan mo ng pic the cake you got from your buddies. Kung ako man, I wont let anyone touch it!)

Mariel said...

Awww. Yun naman eh! ;-) You guys give me hope! Chos. Hahahaha But really, I'm a fan of your love team! <3

Gellie Abogado said...

Aww. I'm actually speechless. Moooore stories <3

Anagon =) said...

Someday I will have my own Zee-Honey love story! You guys are inspiring :) Stay in love!!! :)

Melai said...

Honey! This is sooo sweet. I miss you girl! You are sooooo right about "timing". JR and I are so in love now and but like you, I've had a few "thing" with other guys that didn't work out. When I got wiser, like you, I knew it wasn't because I wasn't mean to be because of the the "timing" nga.

Every girl out there deserves their own version of Zee and JR! I hope both of us continue to stay happy with our relationship. I wish you God's best dear! :) Mwuah!


hearts,
Melai of Style and Soul

Roan Tuazon said...

You are really in loooooove! hehe Happy heart's day! :)

fashioneggpplant said...

omg honey, cheese na cheese ka lang talaga pero SOOO inspirational. wish all the best for both of you and sana you make a movie out of it. :))

Nina said...

Back reading :)

Wow! Yun relationship nyo si Zee patunay na destiny talaga. Who would have thought after all those years kayo yun mag end up together :). I think sa batch nyo kayo lang talaga yun nagkatuluyan. Anyway I know how hard it is pag LDR ang isang relationship. So two thumbs up for the both of you.

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